The truth never ceases to amaze me, Reader
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Yet it's amazing how little we tell it.
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I have a crystal clear memory of pretending to like a Christmas gift in front of my entire extended family as a kid.

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And that's all well and good at a party.

But when covering up your real feelings bleeds into your whole life it becomes a problem.

Like not telling a colleague their behavior is problematic.

Not telling a friend they've hurt you.

Not telling a partner what you really need to feel connected.

So often we keep the narratives in our heads to ourselves. We are not well practiced at having the true, hard conversations that our biggest, boldest lives depend upon.

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And that's a shame, Reader

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Because the truth is like a door.

It can be a very challenging, stretchy door to walk through at first. But on the other side there is better understanding, deeper connection, healed relationships, and true intimacy.

Here's an example.

Yesterday I told Blair I was feeling like I needed more impromptu hugs lately. He gets me, but sometimes he needs to be reminded.

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(For you Human Design nerds out there, my super sense is Touch and his is Inner Vision. And yes, this is a plug for human design's ability to deepen any relationship in your life.)

Instead of stewing. Instead of creating a story in my head. I told the truth about what I need. And now we both get to benefit.

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On the scale of 1-10, sharing a need for a hug might be relatively easy. (And I acknowledge that it can also be very hard!!)

It can feel as terrifying as mortal danger with more deeply held truths.

But I want you to know that the truth is ** always ** a door.

So long as you can share from a heart-centered place.

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With equanimity.

Even as I type this. I can feel the truth's power in my bones.

Try it out with something small and watch your relationships expand in surprising ways.

And if you need more help understanding how to do this, hit replay and let's talk about it

It's one of my favorite topics ;)

XO
C

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